Taking it slow and thinking

Taking it slow was the order of the last week. A cup of coffee, a double chocolate muffin and a whole day of sunshine. They added up to a beautiful, slow and deeply refreshing day. It would have been better if I'd have had my coffee shop friend (not in the Dutch manner!) there with me, but she chose to move away, so I had to enjoy it by myself. Which I did.

I read this today:

"The Hebrew Talmud says: 'Be very careful if you make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman came out of a man's rib. Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior. But from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved.' "

I love it. I feel like shouting it at all those blokes who say things like "what do you expect for a rib?" Only it is too long to quip back and why gratify them with the idea that I might entertain the thought of them being equal to me? But then I suppose they are, we are equal, just not the same. That is good too. 

I’ve been meaning to show you a present that I got for my birthday. Helen, my mum, made me a new quilt. It was meant to be a replacement for the old one that serves us well, keeps us warm and lives on our sofa it is at least 25 years old and used to be dark blues and reds. Well since I snook it away from her when I was about 13 (it wasn’t made for me, but I always like it and it did go so well my room as a kid) it has been a faithful part of my home where ever I have been. It is no longer blue or red of made of brushed cotton. It is more kind of pale blue and the cotton is soft, but there is certainly no “brush” left on it. As you can probably imagine, it’s not a replacement. We now have two quilts on our sofa now. A nice new one and a comfy old one.

Once a week I spent the evening with friends. Really, I should say at least once a week I spend an evening with friends without family or chosen family. I get a whole evening just to chat. For a working mother of a toddler that is something quite special. I enjoy it. This week I spent the evening with a friend who has just quit her regular job (a successful buyer for a big aviation company) to follow her dream to live from her art. Okay, she has her husband’s financial support, but more importantly she has the will to make something of something she is passionate about. I admire her so much for that. We talked a lot about it on Monday. I am inspired. Go for it, woman! No names yet as she still has colleagues who don’t know. But believe me, when all her immediate colleagues know, then I shall be showing you what she is up to right here. 

Happy Birthday!

I have a special place for January in my heart. Okay it can be very dark, cold and miserable. In the past two have been snow filled which makes it even better. I think lots of people have a special relationship with their birth month. Birthdays are great, I love them. It is so nice to have people from all over ring you, send you cards or just drop you a text message. Granted we now have mobiles, computer and applications like Facebook to remind us about them, but I don’t care. Thanks for all the calls, mails, texts….I think I appreciate those calls all the more because I am soooo bad at birthdays myself. Typically I remember or am reminded early in the morning, spend all morning thinking about calling that person to then forget until it is too late at night. Sorry!

The other reason I like my birthday is because two years ago I decided that the best thing I could give to myself was a whole day. My company gives us the afternoon off (thank you very much…..) and I add a half-day’s holiday to it. Time to do just as I want. The rules are no admin stuff, no doctor’s appointments, no work, just pleasure. This year I fiddled with my sewing machine, skyped for two hours to my far away friend in China (almost as good as sitting in the kitchen drinking tea, only almost) and then stamping through the snowy park to a café (Sugarbird Cupcakes) for hot chocolate and cake. Sugarbird Cupcakes is somewhere I have been wanting to go since we moved here, but somehow had to be made into a proper date before I actually got there. Y and I really enjoyed it as you can see.

And now it is February and February brings a whole round of pleasures. Karneval is one of them. Living in Düsseldorf means you have to really be fore it or leave the city. It is a bit like Marmite, either you love it or you hate it. This year we’ll be dancing inside on Saturday and following the children’s parade on Sunday. The big parade on Monday is better seen on TV anyway (oh and yes, I have to work…… there are disadvantages of not working in a part of the country that doesn’t celebrate).

2010... January

Hello there stranger….. life has been very busy and I admit to have been spending my internet time on reading other people’s interesting blogs. So many interesting people out there with so many interesting projects, stories and causes. The beginning of the year is already over. January is a month of taking stock, of thinking about the future and re-evaluating goals for me. I have ambitious plans for this year and I’ll let you know if I achieve them. I read somewhere that telling people about your goals does motivate you, but also gives you a milder form of the kind of kick you get from achieving them. I’ve decided to tell only few what I aim for to make sure I am not wasting any of that motivation.

January was a wonderful month. It started with friends and family in the Eifel over New Year. We took a three day break with friends, invited family over to celebrate and had a great time.  Here we all are on New Year's Day at Hellental.

It has been really cold here this year and the snow continues to fall. I now know why I could feel the winter looming in September. It is a biggy this year. But contrary to other years, I am enjoying it. We have had snow lying (almost continuously) since the 18^th December. That is not usual for around here. Towns are running out of salt to keep the streets clear. Having said that I think we live in the only part of town that isn’t clearer anyway. I think that adds to the charm of the area. It makes it seem a little more natural and extends the park over the road to our place. The snow has kept the city quieter than it would normally be. How does snow do that? It is such silent weather (at least around here). The nights have been long and quiet.

 

Y and I borrowed The Tomten from the International Library here in Düsseldorf (a great selection of English media for all ages and such friendly staff). I got it out after reading this post about how it inspired a little girl. Well to be honest, after reading it several times with Y, I was bored. Nothing happens, this Tomten (a kind of gnome) just runs around at night talking to sleeping animals about the summer. The copy we have has badly printed illustrations to add. Well after Christmas I tried to take it back to the library but all of a sudden it seemed to fit the season so well. The nights even in the city are thick, dark, long and cold. I suddenly could appreciate this slow story where the cold and dark permeate and the animals dreaming of summer. So it is now still inhabiting Y’s bookcase. 

Apart from being dark and cold, we’ve been celebrating. The family got together to celebrate a very special person, our Frau P. who has looked after this family for over 25 years. She has loved, cooked and cleaned three generations of the family. She is always there to help make things possible, a hug for the kids that need consolation, cake that needs baking, a sock that needs mending, a household that needs keeping in order, … she is our good wife (as my mother would say) and we are grateful and thankful for that.  

January also continued to bring us lovely gifts. We especially appreciated two parcels from the States. One full of wonderful presents from New York….thank you! And one from Bar Harbor, ME. We were touched to receive a delicious cake from the lovely people we stayed The Birches in Sothwest Harbor (Mt. Desert Island, ME). It is such a shame that they are so far away as otherwise we’d go there every year! If you are looking for the perfect break, I suggest you check out The Birches. Rocky, Dick and Susi will spoil you rotten, the house is spacious and luxurious, you can watch the humming birds feeding in the garden or stroll down to the beach and wonder what life’d be like if you were on the yatch berthed in the bay. Pretty close to paradise in my opinion.

January 2009

It is cold here!

Christmas 2009

2010 has started and I am on my way to work. A little while in which I can either sleep along with my fellow passengers, take the time to reflect on the past few days or think about the future. This morning I am taking the time to reflect on the past fortnight. The Christmas and New Year celebrations were fun. We spent a lot of time with family and friends, ate excellent food lovingly prepared, opened packages which showed the givers had given much thought to the receivers, and enjoyed the weather.

On Christmas Eve we went as a family to the family Christmas service. I thought it was done really well. The local primary school acted the Nativity and the meaning of Christmas was spelt out very clearly. The blatant message wasn’t enjoyed by all, but I felt it was good to be reminded without any misunderstanding what Christmas is about and about how good our lives are. The following days were very family intensive and with 5 little ones (and quite a lot of big ones) a noisy affair. We had them all around for dinner on Boxing Day. It always makes me appreciate what having 18 people for dinner entails! Thanks to my inlaws for having us the other two days.

Despite the thoughtfulness and generosity of the presents we were given, this time of year never fails to make me question the amount of presents we receive. Funny, I love buying, making (doesn’t happen half as much as I would like!!) giving and receiving presents. I less like having things. Of course I like the things I have been given or we have been given, the whole ritual is wonderful but we seem to have so much. All of the things we have and then all the new things. Somehow when they are all together they take up so much space. I am still mulling over these thoughts.